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dating
tips...
- When responding to other members, make
sure you mention something from the person's ad. It shows
you’ve read it and are genuinely interested in learning
more. Most people like to hear that you think he/she is
attractive. Just don't make this the ONLY point of your
e-mail. You should really have something more to say to
someone than you think they've got great eyes or a terrific
smile. Try not to be cheesy, all those one liners have probably
been used before!
- Prepare yourself for dating. Decide
what you are looking for and what you’re not. Do your
research so you will be ready for when that special one
comes along. Take your time and view plenty of personal
ads first.
- Think about what your dating goals are and timescales.
Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then
approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and
don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest
questions about why you are dating and what you hope to
achieve.
- Be prepared for some let downs along the way but don't
take dating too seriously either.
- Enjoy dating for what it is. It is the
chance to meet new people, socializing and spending time
in the company of stimulating individuals who may not have
otherwise had the chance to meet. The fact is, most people
are interesting and where you may not be looking for new
friends, you may well find one or two along the way and
you can never have too many of those.
- Take a look at your current image. Invest
in a new hairstyle or new outfit, start a fitness and healthy
eating programme. Not only will it help make you look and
feel better, it will do wonders for your confidence.
Internet
dating is fun and introduces you to the world of dating safely
and gently. Relax and enjoy!
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safety
guide...
When sending messages to other members
- Always trust your instincts, they are usually right,
if it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t.
- Do not publish your phone number, address or email address
in personal ads.
- Don't take everything at face value.
- Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
- Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whomever you
are chatting with.
- If someone is abusive to you, block him or her straight
away.
- Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you
haven’t met.
- Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed.
A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready
to meet.
When going on a first date with other
members
- Don’t feel obliged to meet anyone, it’s your
choice.
- Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much
as possible about them.
- Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail box
before hand if possible and ask to see a photo.
- Always tell a good friend where you are going, who you
are meeting and where you are going. Write down your date's
full name and telephone numbers and leave it with them.
- Always carry a mobile phone on a date if you have one.
- Lunchtimes are good for dating. They are convenient, and
have a time limit giving you an “exit” point.
- Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient
to you.
- If possible phone your friend during the date to confirm
all is fine.
- Do not accept a lift home on the first date or reveal
your address. Arrange your own transport.
- If travelling far, organize your own accommodation and
confirm it.
- Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything, whatsoever!
You are the one in charge.
Safety
is ultimately your own responsibility. It’s mostly common
sense, but by following some basic guidelines you can feel in
control and confident. Whatever you decide is best for you,
keep your wits about you, and most of all enjoy your date!!
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writing
a good profile...
- Include a photo or two of you on your
dating profile. Members with photos get far more responses
than those without! That doesn't mean you should lie and
use photos of models though! Outdated or staged photos are
also best avoided, try and present the real you.
- Be creative! Ever jumped out of plane?
Been bungee jumping? Been swimming with dolphins?! Or anything
else just as exciting, write it in your personal ad! Got
any claims to fame? Any life long ambitions? Favourite films
or books? Anything out of the ordinary will help you stand
out from the crowd.
- Include some humour. Apart from good
looks, one of the most wanted things by the opposite sex
is a good sense of humour! This doesn’t necessarily
mean telling jokes, but it does mean that your profile doesn’t
have to be totally serious. It will help to lighten the
first introduction and people will appreciate an icebreaker.
- Remember this isn't a CV, it's an introduction.
You don't have to go into your job history, or your love
life history. Just write about you, your interests, what
sets you apart, etc., in a style that sounds like the way
you talk. Don't forget the little things, re-read it, make
sure it makes sense and that the spelling is correct.
- Be yourself. Make your description
accurate and genuine, sincere and interesting, read it back
to yourself, put yourself in the shoes of the person who
will be reading it, would you want to meet you?
- Appearances can be deceiving. Beware
of using certain words when describing your ideal partner.
Words such as "shapely", "head turner",
"hunky", "fit", etc could alienate a
lot of people who may not consider themselves to be these
things, but could be attractive in other ways. Such descriptions
could also make you appear shallow.
- It’s all about first impressions, only
now you're relying on the computer screen to convey the
type of person you are. Take your time, put something together
that will show people you are sincere and have spent some
time considering what you want from a relationship and what
you can offer in return.
- Above all be honest. Lying will get
you nowhere as you will be found out sooner rather than
later and will most definitely lose any chances of a relationship
at the same time. NEVER mention sex or imply you are just
looking for sex, that is a big turn-off and will make most
people run a mile!
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